How to stop taking things personally?

We live in a world where there will be so many people who aren’t nice to others. Whenever somebody uses unkind and unloving words to talk about others, it always hurt us. Because people always want to make themselves superior therefore they try to mock others down and make them feel bad.

I believe that there is a better way to deal with people who have negative vibes, therefore I decided to write on how to no longer take things personally and how to live in peace and harmony.

Below are some of my analysis on how we can get rid of negativity by no longer taking things personally. Be sure to be a good person before applying these techniques, as most of these will only suit work when you are good yourself.

Nothing to do with you

Whether people love you or hate you, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s only about them all the time. Take take it personally when someone doesn’t like you or speak about you, because it shows their mindset and not yours.

No real value

We always think that other person’s opinion are valuable in our life. Ofcourse it does many times. But that’s not true all the time, as you are the only one who know everything about yourself. Only you can say yourself how more valuable or less valuable you can become in this life.

Truth needs no defending

When you are true inside, you really don’t need any defending. And if you ever find yourself defending for the right things, then assume it is a need of the hour. Because truth needs no defending.

Everything is just distraction

The things which you have taken personally are just meant to distract you from life. Just set everything apart and don’t get distracted from these things. Because these are just distractions and aren’t important in your life.

Just be yourself

Try to do things which are meant for you and makes you happy. Never give too much of attention to what others are talking about you. Never make others opinion as far more important than your own. Always remember that your job is to be yourself and live your own life instead of someone else. If people don’t agree with you, it is their problem, not yours.

What others think of you is none of your business

We always take people approval for anything in life. But the fact is, once you start taking their approvals, and once you start thinking what they would think about you, then you have already become the slave of your own life.

Remind yourself constantly that what people think is none of your business and their opinion or negativity really doesn’t matter much to you.

Not worth your time and energy

It is surprising to know that we usually spend so much of our time and energy on thinking why certain people don’t like us or why certain people talk to us the way talk. Instead of focussing on people who always cherish us and spread love for us, we always go behind people who aren’t really nice to us. Failing to realize this, we are not just wasting our time and energy, but are also poisoning our mind to gain more negativity.

Surround yourself with positive people

There are so many people around you who are already full of positivity. All you need to do in find them and make friendship with them. This is one of the best ways to remove toxic people from your life and get yourself away from negativity. This will help you to build your self confidence and truly live life to the core.

Move on

Because there is so much to do in this little life, there is just no room for these tiny things which affects you in a bad way. The best way is to just move on with whatever you are doing, because they are just not worth enough.

Nobody is Perfect

You have to understand this fact of the world that everybody makes mistakes and no opinion is literally perfect. It all depends on individual perceptions.

Forgive & Let go

Me and my brother use to fight a lot when we were kids. And towards the end, I would always go to my mom and complain about his bad behavior. And my mom would always tell me “If you are the bigger you will forgive and let go…”

Even though lot of people think that forgiving others is an art of weakness. But the truth is we don’t forgive people because we are weak, instead we forgive them because we are strong enough to realize that people make mistakes and sometimes it’s okay to let go these things.

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Smile

Because this is one of the best ways to even turn negative people into positive. You will be really surprised to see others reaction on this. Trust me you never know what kind of day the other person is having and how one simple smile of yours can lighten up their day and even yours.

Following these points might be difficult sometimes and you might land up in ego issues. Never let that happen to you otherwise you will never be able to learn from others.

P.S. These things are only meant to be applied in situations where there is negativity around you. However, this cannot be applied when we have attitude/ego issues ourselves already.